1 Corinthians 7:1-11
People all over the world are stressed and depressed, because they feel that in their singleness, there’s no hope, or true happiness in life. Many feel that good living is a by-product of being joined in union with a spouse, but I’ve learned that being single is actually a blessing from the Lord. One reason I believe this way is, those who are unmarried can focus all their time on caring for the things of God, without being distracted by the things required by a husband or wife. Marriage is work, and demands extensive time, effort, patience, and a list of necessary things to keep it in good standing. Fortunately for single people, the weight of marriage is nonexistent, and all their attention can be directed toward God’s business, unhindered.
Although my feelings toward singleness attribute to a more focused approach to godliness, being married can present a couple that has the potential to wreak havoc to the forces of darkness. Marriage is the single-most beautiful institution ever established by God. When a man and woman become one, their union amplifies everything embodied into their very being. A perfect example of how powerful a married couple becomes when compared to being single is illustrated in the Dragon Ball anime series. Goku is the main character who has an undying passion for training, to become one of the greatest fighters ever. His unending desire to test his strength against the world’s strongest opponents is unmatched by anyone, and even though he may lose at times, his loses only strengthen his passion to work harder to prepare himself to win the next fight. On his own, Goku has become a force to be reckoned with, but when Goku merges with his counterpart Vegeta, their powers are elevated exponentially! The fused powers of each fighter far outweighs the strength of each fighter when standing alone, and this proves that when the two are united as one, their abilities supercede what they could produce from their own efforts. The longer Goku and Vegeta remain in fusion, the stronger they will be, but when the fusion reaches its time limit, they revert back to their original powers.
Marriage is work, and requires a lot to keep it going, but as long as the two partners remain joined together as one, the things God can do through them far outweigh what they could do if they were separated. While it’s true, those who are married care for the things of God, and things that are of the world, how they may please each other, mastering both elements can prove to yield some amazing results! God can use us whether we’re married or single, but the Bible clearly helps us understand, “Two are better than one; because they have a good reward for their labour. For if they fall, the one will lift up his fellow: but woe to him that is alone when he falleth; for he hath not another to help him up. Again, if two lie together, then they have heat: but how can one be warm alone? And if one prevail against him, two shall withstand him; and a threefold cord is not quickly broken (Ecclesiastes 4:9-12).
Getting married, and staying married is crucial in today’s society. We live in a world where marriage is shunned for single living and fornication. Paul teaches that it’s good for a man not to touch a woman, and avoid premarital sexual relations, but if perhaps a man lacks the self-control over his sexual passions and appetites, then it’s better for him to marry. The reason for marriage is more than sex, and should be centered on fulfilling the will of God with your partner, and best friend, but to maintain a healthy and lasting marriage, husbands and wives must respect each other, in reference to sexual needs. Husbands have no power over their own bodies, nor do wives have power over theirs, but they both belong to each other, and neither has the authority to refuse what the other needs or demands in their relationship (within reason, of course). The best way to avoid threats of separation or divorce in marriage is for each partner to love and treat each other they same way they desire to be treated. Times are different now than they were back in the day, and people are being raised and taught different definitions of love. For this reason, it’s essential for the man and woman to study a person’s thoughts and beliefs on what love is, then assess whether or not it’s aligned with what the Bible teaches. Unhealthy marriages can be avoided, if only people would be patient, and ask the right questions before committing to each other.
To all the single people, my advice is opposite of the apostle Paul, as I wish that all were married, and living in the love of God, and of a spouse. To those who desire to be married, be sure and gain a strong understanding of what marriage is, according to Scripture, and measure your life with what the Word requires, before making a commitment to someone else. To those who are married, stay strong, and keep God first in your relationship. There will be seasons when it’ll be tough to balance caring for your spouse, as well as caring for the things of God, but with the help of the Holy Spirit, you’ll be led and strengthened to make the right choices in all your tough situations. “And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female, And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh? Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” (Matthew 19:4-6).
Walk in love,
Ell